So recently I was accused of always being gloomy and cynical in my blog, told that I always see the negative in situations and not the positive.
See I always thought that I found the *funny* in situations, sometimes the bizarre but mainly the funny.
I’ll be the first to admit that I take the piss out of myself so that it doesn’t sting as much when other people do, I cover embarrassment up with humour and call me a fool because sarcasm is my wit.
But I wouldn’t have called myself a negative person.
It’s knocked the wind fair out of my sails actually, my perspective on situations has changed because now I’m questioning whether I’m funny or negative.
There was a hint of a tear in my eye and my lips were stretched across my teeth to simulate a smile, but inside I think a little bit of me actually died! I feel shocked and surprised, disappointed that I’ve painted this strange picture of myself and that someone who doesn’t really know me now has an unshakable wrong impression of who I am.
Or are they wrong at all?
When someone just shakes their head and says ‘no’ it leaves little room for misinterpretation. I’m unsure even why one person would feel it’s ok to have developed an unwavering opinion about an individual and be bold enough to verbalise it, I ended up verging on irate, how dare they! Of course my rage was manifested in a polite smiling bobble headed silence.
To say I’m glum about it is an understatement – but I guess it’s to be expected from someone so negative!
See now I feel like I can't tell you about pulling the wrong blind chain and giving the neighbour a horrifying eyeful as the blinds went all the way up instead of down or how when visiting Husbands grandmother she talked about the bed she stayed in on the night of her honeymoon and how we squirmed in discomfort listening all about it or my inability to introduce myself to the immaculately dressed new co-worker and the three awkward and embarrassing moments that have ensued since......
Maybe I’ll start a cake-off blog instead.......
Okay, I might be a little biased here because I know you far better than someone might from just reading your blog... but you know what? I'm not just saying this, but you really are one of the most positive people I know. Honestly. And I don't get a negative vibe from your blog posts. Not at all.
ReplyDeletePlease keep writing about the stuff you do - I love it. x
Excuse me, you are funny! I think you summed it up in your comment 'someone who doesn’t really know me'. It's way too easy for people to make assumptions when they don't know you but you also should not be so concerned about what people like that think.
ReplyDeleteThose that know you love you exactly as you are and that's all you need to remember.
Lets get this out of the way - you're not negative. Now let's get the other thing out of the way - some people can't take a joke.
ReplyDeleteI don't know what their problem is. Clearly you are laughing at yourself and your own situation. If they can't see that then I feel sorry for them. Also sorry for you that they felt the need to tell you.
As someone who uses her own blog as an outlet for her many and considerable frustrations, I know how it is to try to put a "positive" spin on things that sometimes aren't that positive.
The fact is that everybody has different problems or issues to deal with in life and we all have our own way of doing so. You aren't focusing on the negative. I don't see any negative here.
You write whatever you want to write. Plenty of people seem to like what you do now.
Negative? Nope, not a word I would ever use to describe you, E. Honest? Yes. Witty, yes. Funny? Definitely!
ReplyDeleteI really do love your style of writing and your unique brand of humour. I can honestly say that you have made me laugh out loud many a time. Please don't stop now on account of this one person's thoughtless words. Keep being you.
(Oh, and please do share the awkward co-worker story. I need to hear it!)
Bec x
Unbelievable! I love your blogs Emily and liken them to my life often, hubby often says what are you smiling about or giggling to myself when I'm reading it on my phone! Keep writing in your unique and humorous way as we wouldn't have it any other way!! X
ReplyDeleteI don't quite know what to say! thank you! no really, thank you.
ReplyDeleteI think my wallowing in self pity is over, consider me picked up and dusted off.
thank you.
Hi Emily,
ReplyDeleteYou know what, when people really p*ss me off I have learnt to think "some people are just idiots". Dont listen to a word of such nonsense! I am waitng in anticipation for all the stories in your last paragraph, and I know from reading the above Im not the only one!!! Anna.
Compared to Pollyanna perhaps you are negative! But in the real world? Nope...not a chance. Hilarious? Damn straight! (again...late comment...but in case any seeds of doubt have snuck in, mine might help). Idiot person is all I can say (random commenter...not you)
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